Aaron and I are not expert parents. We have not read every parenting book in the planet (well, he hasn’t read any), we didn’t come from perfect childhoods (well, at least I didn’t), and we do not have the patience of saints (we both don’t). What we have is a little bit of experience, a medium bit of common sense, and a lottabit of love. (Yes, you may use the new word “lottabit.” I give you permission.)
1. Know that spending quality time with your children means more immediately and in the long run then throwing money at your children.
2. Listen to your own heart and thoughts. If you think your child is sick or acting different, you are probably right.
3. Know that parents are different and parenting styles are different. Don’t destructively compare your style to others’ style.
4. Know that you will not be perfect and your children won’t be perfect. Strive to do your best, but don’t overwhelm yourself or them.
5. If you have a significant other, pay attention to them and their parenting needs. In order to be a healthy and whole family unit, everyone must feel represented and significant.
6. Schedule one-on-one time with each person in your family. You’d be surprised at how easy it is to forget to spend time with one another.
7. Listen to your children. Listen to your children. Listen to your children. They are people and they have minds and feelings too. Really listen to them.
Plus, Aaron’s simplified advice for a brand spankin’ new parent:
Babies are a lot like engines. There are only three major things that can be wrong with them. In an engine, it is fuel, spark, and compression. In babies, it’s food, sleep, and sanitation. If it is not one of those three in an engine, get a new engine. If it’s not one of those three in an infant, go to the hospital.
I also like this advice. Remember: sometimes kids just need to cry.
